Whoʻs killing your lights? | Lights On! #1

In our premier episode we challenge you to know thyself on another level, identify who is a light killer in your life, and propose an audit of what kind of games you really want to play. Clarity and decisive action or non-action, is the key so that your time and energy spent is focused on what brings you closer to yourself and your calling. Cherish your lights and protect them, there is always a distraction at bay.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Three, two, one.

SPEAKER_00 0:12

On a scale of one to ten, how lit up are you right now?

SPEAKER_01 0:15

I'd say I'm at a seven. All right. What about you?

SPEAKER_00 0:19

Ooh, an eight. Oh damn, okay. And you, the listener, how lit up are you right now? One to ten. Ten being the most lit up ever, and one being the complete opposite. This is a great audit to see where you're really at in this moment and where you want to be and how you can close that gap.

SPEAKER_01 0:42

So, how do you handle light killers?

SPEAKER_00 0:45

Dang, going straight for the job. We just gotta get in love. Wow. Well, it's always a learning curve and a continuous learning curve because they never stop. They're relentless. Persistent committed. Yeah, they're committed to the role. 2,000%. And thank goodness for that, because they truly make us a better player, right? You know, it's a journey learning how to navigate light killers. They make you have to polish yourself and revisit aspects that need cleaning up, tightening up. We laugh about it actually, because we know it's game on all the time. Putting ourselves out there and playing our game, our mission, our purpose, what lights us up. Those guarantee that the light killers are gonna come hunt you down. Even family members, friends. To answer a question, I think the first thing is awareness of them. Because when you're aware of what's happening, you have the choice to not play. Because they're always proposing a game. Usually it's dominance, or they they'll say something that just feels twisted or turned off. It turns you off, turns your lights off. That's the first indication that they're a light killer. There's people that turn you on, and there's people that turn you off. And it's not sexual. I mean, it can be, I guess, but but I mean turned on like your lights are on. And you know when you feel good and you feel yourself around people, and when it's the opposite, when you completely feel turned off, unseen, it's like dead energy in the room. You can see it on your face too. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01 2:30

People age 20 years, they get uglier. Like we laugh about it all the time. We see it physically on our faces, and just in our energy as well. Just sucked out.

SPEAKER_00 2:40

Yeah, we actually give ourselves that feedback. Like when I see it on you, the change in your face, or if you see it on me, you're like, whoa, mom, that person just like sucked out all your beauty. And it's true. Youthfulness and vitality is a light, it's a form of light, it's a form of magnetism, it's electricity, it's radiating out of us in us, and people feel it and they they're attracted to it. And then when the light killer, you come into contact with a light killer, it's like they just suck it out if you let them. And that's the key, if you let them. And I let them do that so many years. Oh my gosh. And then you realize what actually is happening, and then when you identify it, then you can take better action or make a decision like, no, I'm actually not going to let them suck my life force from me. Amen. And the reason you don't let that happen is it's not serving them and it's not serving you, it's a lose-lose because light killers or vampires, energy vampires, they're not self-sustaining. They're dependent on getting energy from other people for whatever reason. It's like a parasite. Right. They're wounded, they don't know better, ignorance, they're just maybe heavily damaged from life and maybe lost in it. So that's their go-to game. You're not in service to them by allowing them to suck you. The feedback that they need is to not allow them to suck you. Because then they're like, What? And they'll come after you even harder. Guaranteed. And you then you have to learn how to navigate that because you have to hold that boundary and that line like fucking hard. And they'll try every fucking thing, every game to get you and irk you. And really, they are making you a better player because they're showing you every little crevice that they can enter into. So that's the work. I love this that we can talk.

SPEAKER_01 4:36

I feel like it's very rare to have a really close relationship with parents as well.

SPEAKER_00 4:42

It's like on a soul level. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I do believe in on soul levels that there are soul groups that you just jive with. Your tribe. Yeah, soul tribe. There's just people you're in resonance with, and it's effortless, you know, and you cherish those connections. And of course, there's connections you have to work for, and they're also valuable and worth it. It's interesting to see how you vibe with certain people and different tribes, and how some are like just oil and water. They don't we don't jive. And energy vampires are one of them for me. I just don't jive with them, and I don't jive with like witchy people. Witchy people can be very manipulative and not in the win-win sense. And I look for that in people. People that create win-wins, where they win, I win, everyone wins. A lot of times with manipulation, it's one wins and one loses, and that's like old paradigm. I'm fucking over that. Or lose lose. Oh, those are even worse. So, how do you deal with the witchy archetype? I don't. I don't play. I'm not interested in it. I used to get distracted by them because that's their whole point. They want to draw you in so then they can suck you out and like steal your energy, or or just play these manipulative witchy games. That's what it is. I just don't give them my attention anymore. As soon as I smell it, or as soon as I smell or detect a mean bone, like they're fucking mean. Anyone, not just a witch, but just witchy people and mean people, I don't even bother. I don't, I don't have time for that shit. And I want to spread goodness in the world, and I am not gonna let some mean or uh manipulative person come destroy or destroy the people that I love and protect. And that goes with like lying, manipulation, energy vampires. These are all people you gotta keep away from your inner circle. They will fucking take it out in you and not even blink an eye and on to the next destruction. The next victim.

SPEAKER_01 6:42

Not to be victim, but you don't have you don't have to play out the victim game either, because that's another whole thing as well.

SPEAKER_00 6:48

Yeah, everything is a is an opportunity to be empowered by it and grow. How do you handle energy vampires?

SPEAKER_01 6:57

I mean, I've learned a lot from you, but it's definitely I feel different about it now than I did back in the day. I was much more, I don't know if susceptible is the right word, but I'd let them. And I don't think that's how you play anymore. Like you just can't do that, especially if you want to be let them how. What do you mean? Oh, let them have. You know what I mean? Your energy, your dreams, like they will stomp on you and push your buttons, and it really just shows you how you have to grow and navigate that whole situation. You have to notice where they're pushing your buttons, and that's telling you where your own insecurities are and where they're infiltrating you. Nice.

SPEAKER_00 7:45

Yeah, it is like an infiltration. Yeah. So let's decide to be only infiltrated by love and people that light us up and themselves up.

SPEAKER_01 7:56

You have to maintain your lights. Yeah. You have to. So, what lights you up? Honestly, this podcast. I think I've been waiting for an opportunity like this to just get our ideas out there and our conversations because I feel like I've been hiding and in a little bubble trying not to be seen.

SPEAKER_00 8:16

Right.

SPEAKER_01 8:16

But it's time to be seen. Oh, I love it. And I'm just really excited to have all our conversations that we have at home and just casual situations because our relationship is very open. We talk about everything, we're blunt, we're honest, we cut through the bullshit.

SPEAKER_00 8:34

Yep.

SPEAKER_01 8:34

My favorite word, apparently. Yeah, I love it.

SPEAKER_00 8:36

Yeah, you gotta cut through the noise and all that shit. Shit. It's so cool to have this platform with you. I'm really grateful. Me too. This is gonna be such an adventure where we're just having these conversations, sharing these conversations, and grow. It's gonna be so much fun and have guests on here. I'm so excited. And just staying true to what lights us up is so important. That's when you know, too, when someone speaks truth, you take a deep breath involuntarily from the gut, and you just feel everything just go settle in. We can be on do-do-do and BBB, and you know, being an entrepreneur, of course, you're you're constantly moving and thousand miles per hour. Yeah, but it's nice when you have these moments and someone says something like what you just did, and you could just feel it.

SPEAKER_01 9:32

And I think it's really healing for both of us, too, just to have these conversations on full display. But I think it would help other people as well just to hear this because a lot of people are not aware of lights.

SPEAKER_00 9:42

Yeah, we forget or how all these dynamics are. Right. Yeah, we've been in it for so long that we forget that the the way we speak about things is kind of different. It's not normal, but I feel like it should be. Everyone should be aware of this stuff, which is why we are here with you on this podcast. That's why we are here. Lights on. We should probably speak about what that actually means to someone that might not be aware of it yet. So, how would you describe how to find what lights you up? Well, definitely, first step is self-awareness, know thyself. And that's a huge leap in itself. Because you gotta, it's an it's a multi-layered, I don't want to say onion, but you know what I mean? It's layer upon layer upon layer. And years sometimes. It it does. It takes time to uncover who we really are, what our calling is, what lights us up. And that's okay. That's you gotta enjoy the journey of each layer being peeled away and dissolving. And I think another key element is having people that you love and trust. There is mutual respect and honesty to have that feedback. We give each other feedback all the time, like wow, you are totally lit up from that. And that's a that's a nugget, a golden nugget, a clue to oh, when I did this activity, I am completely lit up and someone saw the change. That is huge. So we like to say, oh wow, that lights you up because that gives a clue and that feedback to that person. Oh, when you dance, you are freaking lit up. You gotta continue dancing because when you do what lights you up, everything in your life changes. It completely changes the game. When you do the things that don't light you up, that's how you get caught in a riptide, and all of a sudden you're all the way over there and you don't know how the fuck that happened. So lights are your north star. What I like to also see in people that are lit up, you can see it in their eyes, the way their face lifts up, their cheekbones lift. There's beauty too. There is, there's vitality, there's mana in Hawaii, it's called mana, prana in the uh Eastern traditions, qi as well, mojo, and aliveness. It's like a measurement of aliveness in someone. Are they walking around in a in a sleep and functioning through life, just barely getting by? Or are they fucking lit up as a creator and interacting with this collective reality as a creator? Jim Quick, he's a one of our mentors. We love how he he asks, Are you the thermostat? Are you the thermometer? And I think most of us live as a thermometer for so long until we wake up and decide I'm gonna be the thermostat. We control it. Yeah, we are we are in the driver's seat on that part in life. What do you see in people that are lit up?

SPEAKER_01 12:43

It just radiates from them. You can feel it in the room, and when you're next to the person, you also feel radiated because not in a radiated in a bad way. Not radiation, but you feel it, you're lit up, they're lit up. Yeah, and again, with the beauty aspect too, you can see it physically. In inner beauty, yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 13:05

In men and women, yeah, it it doesn't matter, it's the beauty inside them radiating. I love that. It's also in a non-visible way, though, as well. It's funny how much we perceive and we we don't always have awareness how much information we're taking in. You can sense someone that's magnetic when they walk in the room, like what you mentioned, you can feel it. And what's interesting is when you watch it, it's like a ripple, right, into the room. You can see it if you tune yourself into it. It's like a pattern. And what's even more fascinating is to watch who gets triggered by it and tries to turn that person off and who turns on from it because they have no resistance to it, to being turned on with their lights. It splits the room, not in half, because I'd say there's more people triggered by it than people that become lit up by that person.

SPEAKER_01 13:59

And the people who are triggered will try to take them out.

SPEAKER_00 14:02

Mm-hmm. Guaranteed. It's interesting. Human humans I think that jealousy and envy is a really interesting reality. And it's I've actually had a lot of painful experiences from it because I didn't understand what was actually happening. And ultimately it has nothing to do with anyone other than that person that's feeling that emotion. But it just means that they're not living their truth, they're not getting what they actually need in life because they're operating from programs that are dooming them into living with no lights. If you're lit up, you are not fucking jealous and envious. In fact, you if you're lit up, you're looking for more lit up people because it's fucking lonely. You're like, where's my lit up friends? Where's the lit up people alive? Life is a miracle. We are literally here to be magnetic, living in our full potential, lit up and radiating that love. And we'll continue to like talk about the light killers because they are pretty funny stories, and I know everyone can relate because there are there's always that person in the group when you're in a group setting, the light killer, guaranteed. There's always at least one, maybe a couple. And they do cause a muck. They really do. If you let them. I mean, you let them cause a muck, but you don't let them get you turn you off. No.

SPEAKER_01 15:35

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SPEAKER_01 17:26

Okay, three, two, one. Stay lit.